Building A Future When Life Is Out of Control

I’ve taken on a few new roles that I never anticipated when I started down this writing path. Running a weekly radio show with my friend and co-host Rob Harris is certainly one of them. While we enjoy it immensely, we’ve also faced learning curves in how to eliminate background noise, record remotely, and field “uncensored” callers, among other challenges.  All in all, with just seven months on the air and over 25,000 listens, I think we’ve both gotten pretty comfortable in our newest role.

This week I had the luxury of being on the other side of the table again, with radio interviews on Care Pax and Company and  The Cancer Support Network. Chris Jerry, co-host on the support network, asked if I felt that my previous work in psychology had paved the way for what I’m doing now. There’s no doubt that experience is an asset. Yet, it’s a collection of our experiences that can make all the difference.

Being a veteran, military spouse, mother of two, and domestic engineer were as significant in creating “Hope Matters” as my last career path. There is something else, though, that is even more significant — the time I’ve spent on my knees. Sooner or later, life will throw you something that is beyond your capabilities. I believe that is where the greatest learning takes place. Those kind of “knee-bowing” experiences are often the most significant  “aha moments” in our lives.

Our perception can either carry us to a better place or make building a future seem impossible. The decision is yours. It’s all in a-glass-of-water2how you view the glass when life is out of control. “It doesn’t matter if the glass is half empty or half full. Be thankful that you have a glass and grateful that there’s something in it.

Tomorrow evening, I’ll have the distinct honor of speaking at a benefit concert dedicated to a wounded warrior. Building Homes for Heroes is hosting the event to raise funds for an Air Force veteran and his family. As a triple amputee Air Force Master Sergeant Joseph Deslauriers’ life is full of challenges. As Mission Spokesperson for Building Homes for Heroes, Kelly Hale  is determined to make sure the Deslauriers Family receives a home free of obstacles.

Kelly Hale is a striking example of using those “knee-bowing” moments to arrive at a better place. When her husband, Aaron, was severely wounded in Afghanistan, she could have become bitter about his subsequent blindness and her simultaneous battle with cancer. Instead, she and her husband teamed up to create better tomorrows for themselves and their children, and countless others who must confront a similar path. Witnessing such courageous steps clarifies my perspective on life — it’s like refreshment to the soul.

Is life throwing you something that seems beyond your capabilities? Be thankful for what you haven’t lost. Be grateful for what you can replenish. Use what you learn to fill someone else’s cup. Praise God for the ensuing “aha moments” that will carry you to a better place.


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